Hair Porn!!!

I love this girl's hair!!! I swear everything she does to her hair comes out beautifully. Love love love it :)

It's ok

Last week when I arrived at work one of my coworkers was crying. I had absolutely no idea what happened or why she was crying but I immediately started crying. Yes. I knew I was an emotional person but damn, that emotional? I know that I feed off of other people's energy but it was crazy how I felt her hurt and pain without even knowing what happened.

After we talked about what was bothering her, I tried my best to comfort her. I told my coworker that it was ok for her to feel the way she was feeling and not to be embarrassed. Of course no one wants to be boohooing at their place of work but if that's how you're feeling, that's how you're feeling. I shared with her that I've cried in the train station, Payless, at a bus stop, in a diner, and in the food court of my college. I've cried in many more places on the spot and you know what? I don't care. I felt how I felt and I released it. And it's ok. 

About 8 or 9 years my aunt gave me some great advice that I still adhere to. She told me that however I am feeling, in that moment it is ok to feel that way and express it. This conversation was around the time that my father died. Before that moment I used to bottle everything up until I got to a point where I'd just explode. Others saw these moments as tantrums but what really was going on was that I didn't know how to express myself and properly communicate when something was bothering me. But after this conversation with my aunt, I  became more vocal and unashamed of my feelings. If I'm so upset that I feel like crying, I cry. Sometimes holding it in and trying to be strong isn't really strong. We're all human. And you know what? It's ok.

Rock Paper Scissors

Kreesha Turner's "Rock Paper Scissors" from her 2011 album Tropic Electric




OMG I was completely obsessed with this song/video for about a month in 2011. Loooove it :)

Senegalese Twists

I said I'd post a picture of my hair, so here it is...

I know that it doesn't look too full but I still like it. It's like that because I didn't want the twists too big or too small and my hair is pretty thin so there was really no way I would be able to have 80 bajillion twists anyway. I plan on keeping these for as long as they look good - probably 6 weeks or so. We'll see :)

Yes, I am alive :)

I know, I know. It's been forever since I've written anything. To be completely honest, the reason is simple: I had nothing to write about. Absolutely nothing. I was tired of the "hum ho, I'm unemployed, woe is me" posts, hair posts seemed less appealing, and I figured I shouldn't force what's not there. For the last two months I basically gave up on writing. But lately, I've actually missed it quite a bit. So here's a quick, possibly random update on what's going on in my life:

• I'm taking a break from my hair. My lovely sister gave me some Senegalese twists last weekend and I plan on keeping them for at least 6 weeks. I might post pics...maybe.
• I started working out on a regular basis 3 weeks ago. Things were going great but I had to stop because it became difficult for me to find the time because......
• I GOTS ME A JOB!!! Yuuuuup :). I started training on August 7th and I'm just now getting into the swing of things. It's a part time job but TRUST, I am ever soooo grateful. After being unemployed for over a year it is definitely a blessing to be able to say that I am employed. Yesssss :)
• I've been thinking about men a lot lately. It's not just my normal daily sexual thoughts about chocolate men, it's been more of a, "hmm I wonder what it would be like to have a boo?" thoughts. I haven't had those kind of thoughts in years. I guess that could mean something. Maaaaybeeee I'm open to dating. I mean, hey, I like me, why not have that in common with someone else? lol
• It feels weird having money and paying bills again, which means I've been unemployed for too damn long smh.
• Almond milk is soooo yummy! Eff cow's milk lol
• From now on I'll probably only have Tunesday and Natural Hair Fridays. If I feel like doing Random Wednesdays and Literary Thursdays, I will. If I don't, I won't. Yup.
• I love having to get up and leave my house (almost) every day. It really has lifted my spirits just knowing I have somewhere to be and something to do. 
• Mannnn I need my back cracked. If you're a fan of Tamar Braxton, you know what I mean lmfao
• It's time for me to plan a "Thank God Shatera finally has a motherfucking job" party!!!! Oh yeahhhhh baby :)
• I'm thinking about revamping my blog again. Hmmm, idk...
• OMG how could I almost forget...I saw Raheem DeVaughn, Avant, Monifah, Donell Jones, Lyfe Jennings, Erica Campbell (from Mary Mary), Tweet, Meli'sa Morgan, and Hi-Five a couple of weeks ago for 107.5 WBLS' 5th annual free R&B Fest at Central Park Summerstage. It was a great day :). I haven't seen Rah perform since 2010 so it was great seeing him...I'm looking forward to seeing him when he comes back to NY. Also, I've always loved Avant but this show made me love him even more. I definitely have to see him live in the future. Mmhmmmm yes lol. 
• I've been thinking about singing a lot lately. A lot. We'll see where that goes.